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Chapter 9, jealousy, deception and betrayal

You care about your partner and other contacts between the opposite sex do? You will not be jealous?

You can identify him (her) of lies and deception act?

Have you ever had a partners betrayal act? Should be how to deal with betrayal?

We have already discussed the intimate relationship of the positive and negative effects. In this chapter that, we will focus on maintaining relations facing the obstacles and hazards. Importantly, we are here talking about the jealousy, deceit and betrayal, in the majority of the development process of the relationship is universal. We will see that most people in his life, jealousy over a certain period of time, and even the prevalence of various forms of complete betrayal.

The situation of these negative people get in return from the relationship, compared with the same degree of influence, and sometimes even more destructive. This helps to explain why most of us who have expressed in the past five years, their relations are very bad. Perhaps worse, they could even make a worthy development of relations are unable to start.

Jealousy

Jealousy is a negative emotional experience, from the people cherished the relationship may be real or imagined rivals. The three typical jealous feelings is to hurt, anger and fear. Jealousy is sometimes confused with envy, in fact, a great difference between them. When we wish to have something that others have, we get jealous of others. Envy is characterized by humility, desire to be owned by others. In contrast, jealousy is to hurt, anger, fear, intertwined with the mentality that stems from fear of losing what one has, or lost did not want to abandon the relationship.

If individuals believe that the relationship between partner failed to fulfill its promise, there will be a sense of injury. Imagine an individual has been abandoned or lost their relations will be fear and anxiety. The most prominent feature of jealous love is the opponent will be the temptation to pitch their own partner. Sometimes degenerate into violent rage, the United States 13% of the murder case was killed by the other spouse, in which jealousy is the most common motive.

Obviously, jealousy is an unpleasant experience. On a global scale it is also common, in children under the age of two who is also able to observe jealousy (when his mother and neglect their own and other children playing, of course). In addition, the culture of reaction to jealousy is not always negative. Right from 1945 to 1985 the magazine articles analysis shows that the 20th century, 50 to 60 years, jealousy is often seen as the witness of love, marriage is good. To 70 ~ 80 years, public opinion has changed to jealousy as an inappropriate, unhealthy mentality, a sense of insecurity and personality from the defects. In the 21st century, our ambivalence still exists, jealousy, they are double-edged sword - on the one hand the expression of love, on the one hand is paranoia. If there is anything, it is even jealous of the people than in the past. To the 20th century, 90 years, with the survey conducted 12 years ago compared to when the thought of love with someone else having sex, the homosexual and heterosexual men expressed a stronger feeling of jealousy.